What do you really want in life?

Most people don’t discover what they want in life until it’s time to die – and that’s a shame. Most people spend the best years of their lives watching television or doing things they dislike. An author described humanity by saying, “Most people die at twenty and are buried at eighty.” Are you one of the living zombies?


What do you really want in life? Some people struggle in answering such question. When asked what they want or what their goals are, many are unsure. They waver in their decision, hardly giving any thought about what they want in life. People without definite goals are letting time pass them by. Are you one of these people?


If you are undecided about what you want out of life, do not worry.  There are many ways of discovering your purpose in life. To discover what you want in life, try looking deep into your heart. Oftentimes, people are ruled by logic. People live by what they think they should be or by what others like them to be. The discovery process is the perfect time to listen to your heart. What your heart desires comes from the whispers of your authentic self. Your authentic self is the real you. 


Listen to your heart to be able to listen to your authentic self. What your heart says usually feels right. What your heart desires is what you usually love to do and this represents your passion. Anything done with passion is like play where the task is accomplished without hesitation. You pour out your very best and feel no pressure or resistance.


You will totally enjoy doing things that are your passion. Setbacks, difficulties, and obstacles will make it more challenging, but should not deter you from pursuing your goals. Naturally, there may be barriers that may prevent you from reaching your goal, but your heart’s desire will find ways to overcome these barriers so that you may ultimately get what you want in life. Remember this: the universe supports people who are pursuing their passion and those who are pursuing their destiny.


However, this does not mean that you don’t use your head. People are born with both the mind and heart. Your duty is to live your best life and be in harmony with your mind and heart. “Live completely in the head and you cannot feel the breath and rhythm of life. Live completely in the heart and you may find yourself acting like a love-struck fool with poor judgment and discipline. It’s all a fine balance – the head and heart must forge a lifetime partnership if one wants to live a beautiful life.” 


Listen to your instincts. Part of human nature is the mysterious and spontaneous reaction on things. Often times, these are called instincts. Your authentic self communicates with you and guides you via instincts. Instincts are those gentle nudges that urge you to act and follow a certain path. Your role then is to listen attentively.


Often times, we listen to what others say and allow them to run our lives. Parents often do this to their children. “We come from a family of doctors, so my son must also be a doctor.” How often do we hear this from parents who have good intentions for their children? Parents unconsciously block the true expression of their child’s real self and calling. Friends and critics will discourage you and point out the impossibility of your dream. Before heeding their advice, evaluate the accomplishments of the critics. Did they achieve their dreams? Do they dream big at all?


Remember, it is your destiny that is in line, not theirs. It doesn’t mean, though, that you will not listen to what other people say. Hear them out just the same. But the final decision should be yours. There is only thing to remember: Every person, to live truly and greatly, must define how he wants to live and what his brightest life will look like.  Listen to your instincts and follow your heart’s desire. You will never go wrong.


Why NOT Give Up

At some point in the various journeys we embark on in our lives, we get to a part where we feel like giving up. Sometimes we give up before we even start and other times we give up just before we are about to make that huge break.

I have created this list of reasons why you should never give up and I hope that you will find it before you give up, so that I can inspire you to keep going!


You Are So Close

Oftentimes when you feel like you want to give up and you are about to give up, it means that you are so close to making a huge break-thru. You are always just a heartbeat away from success at any given time.


Believe In Your Dreams

When you give up, you give up on yourself. Don’t sell yourself short and don’t let anybody bring you down. If you can dream it, you can do it. There have been millions of dreamers before you and if they had given up, the world wouldn’t have been the same. In life there are going to be many people who will try to bring you down. Don’t let anyone destroy your dreams.


As Long As You Are Alive Anything Is Possible

The only valid excuse you have to give up is if you are dead. As long as you are alive (and healthy and free), you have the choice to keep trying until you finally succeed.


Your Family and Friends

Let the people you love and who mean the world to you be your inspiration to persist and persevere. Maybe you need to try a different angle, study more or practice more but don’t give up!


Be Realistic

The chance of mastering something the first time you do it is almost non-existent. Everything takes time to learn and you will make mistakes. Learn from them.


You Need To Prove It To Yourself

You want to prove it to yourself and the world that you can. Don’t let anything stop you from your goal. True failure isn’t when you miss the mark; but it’s when you give up. You don’t want to be known as someone that is weak and gives up. Go out there and prove yourself to the world and to yourself. You CAN and WILL achieve what you set out to do. The only time you fail is when you give up.


You Have Everything You Need

Everything you need to reach your goal is already inside of you. Don’t make excuses, if people can play sports at the Olympic level with disabilities; your short-comings begin to look irrelevant. Be thankful. And use your God given blessings.


You Are Strong

You have the strength to do whatever you want and no matter the amount of setbacks you face, you have the strength to keep going. You are stronger than you think. One little setback is not enough to stop you from achieving your goals.


Success Feels Great

There is no better feeling in this world other than knowing that you faced an obstacle and that only through grit and determination you overcame it and became successful.


Improve Our World

When you achieve whatever you set out to achieve you can use your success to make a difference to the world or other peoples’ lives. Be an inspiration to others by refusing to give up. Who knows what someone else can achieve because you never gave up and in turn inspired them not to give up.


You Deserve To Be Happy

Don’t ever let anybody tell you otherwise. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to have success. Keep that mindset and never give up until you reach your destination!


P.S. NEVER GIVE UP because giving up is for losers and you are not, right?


Vampire Fascination


Many of us today are so fascinated with vampires knowing the fact that they are horrible monsters who feed from human blood. The image of vampire changed from a scary bloodsucker in medieval folklores to a romantic fiction character in novels and movies. People’s reaction to this also changed from hate to fascination. Our fascination to vampires is highly influenced on what the books and movies want us to believe. Over the years, there have been so many vampire-inspired stories that are written and filmed like Twilight, The Vampire Diaries, Interview with a Vampire and True Blood.




The Vampire Diaries

True Blood


It is normal for an audience to feel empathy towards fictional characters. This is one reason why many get hooked in admiring vampire characters for they have the characteristics that every person dream to have. Vampires are powerful, immortal, cool, sexy and sometimes, romantic.


Everyone wants to be powerful and superior over other people like vampires. Vampires are usually slim and sometimes underestimated because of their weak appearance but their strength is more powerful than wrestlers and even the wildest animals. One depiction of their strength is a scene in the movie Twilight when Edward Cullen (a vampire) stopped a car before it could hit Bella Swan. Like other animals, vampires have sensitive senses. They can keenly hear all the sounds in their surroundings; they have sensitive eyesight like a cat; and they have the nose for human blood. Vampires are also fast for they can move to places in just a snap. There are many other super powers that vampires might have as what the writers created them to be like the ability to read minds, ability to predict the future, telekinesis and telepathy.


Who wouldn’t want to be young forever? Most of us do everything to stay young like eating healthy food, regular exercise, taking herbal medicines and cosmetics. But these things cannot let your age stop and make you young forever. Vampires don’t need to do those rituals to achieve it. Vampires are believed to be human beings turned vampires when they are bitten by other vampires and they are automatically considered dead. Their physical body at the age they die will remain as they become vampires. This means that they can live forever for they cannot be sick unless, they are decapitated, burned or exposed to sunlight.


Vampires are cool. When vampires try to live with humans, they are always seen as introvert because they avoid exposure to sunlight. They have a character of being “different” which makes them cool. Their fashion style is also attractive for they have classic clothes. Vampires in books especially if they are main characters tend to have an intelligent trait because they lived and learned many things for several years.


Vampires’ sexual character might have the most influence to our fascination. Sexy actors such as Ian Somerhalder (Vampire Diaries), Brad Pitt (Interview with a Vampire) and Robert Pattinson (Twilight) gave us images of a desirable and seductive vampire. It became a fantasy for us to transform a bad vampire to a romantic vampire to be our ideal partner like the vampire-human love stories.


Vampires might not really exist but the fascination to their characters and stories will live forever in our lives.


Sidelines—Extra Income

Most of the Filipino families are underprivileged and it is expected that the income of every family is just enough for daily food consumption. There are other needs to meet to be able to live such as shelter, clothing and education. In a typical family, the one who’s making money is the father. The other family members left in the house must think of ways on how to help earn extra money for their families to be able to sustain their needs. Earning money is not necessarily having a job outside your house. You can actually earn by just staying at home. Here are some alternative ways or sidelines to earn extra income for housewives, students and unemployed family members.

Having a small business at home is a good idea. Since you are just starting up this business, you can first invest few products to sell. You may sell refreshments like halo-halo, palamig and shake which are perfect for summer. Selling snacks like barbecue, kamote cue, kwek-kwek and fishballs is all also a good business in the neighborhood.


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If you don’t have the capital to buy food and products, a garage sale will do. You may sell the things that you’re not using anymore and you think are still useful. By this, you will earn money at the same time get rid of unused stuff in your house. Putting up your store in front of the house is practical because you don’t need to rent a space anymore.

Online businesses are also popular sidelines today. Because of the emergence of buy-and-sell websites, people found a new platform to put up a business or widen their existing businesses. Online selling is selling in a virtual store where many people have the access to. As long as you have a computer or an android gadget and internet connection, it is easy to advertise and sell brand new and second-hand products. Buy-and-sell websites such as and and even social media networks like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter can be used to advertise your product to everybody in the web.



It is also advisable to use your skills to impart to others while earning. There are part time jobs that need teaching skills like tutorials. Doing tutorials is perfect for college students who would want to make money for their education. It feels good to help others by sharing your knowledge at the same time earning. Tutorials can also be done online.  The popular online tutorial is teaching English to Korean and Japanese students thru Skype. You will just need to spend 4 hours daily in this part time job.

Other online part time jobs are marketing, doing surveys, visiting website, typing jobs and writing articles. These are perfect for people who don’t want to go out or they have other works to do especially the housewives.

This article may give ideas to the unemployed Filipinos who are reading this. If you have any suggestions that you can add in this article, just leave your comments!

The Feminist Reader


Feminism is an advocacy of women’s right that aims for equality between men and women. Without feminism, there would be no movement against injustice and sexism. Feminism inspires women to stand up for their rights and change traditional culture roles. A lot of developing countries deny treating men and women equally because of different beliefs.


Some people are trapped in history of why women were made. Well at least, according to the Holy Bible. Remember, the Genesis? They say women were just made to make men happy and satisfied. Women are for men’s pleasure and are made to be slaves only.


But then, as time flew, women learned to see their worth not just to their husbands but also to the society. Without women, there will be no newborn babies, population will stop and world will also stop on its axis as well. Without women, life would be so boring and dull, right?


I once have watched a documentary/ film entitled, Girl Rising. It’s a very unique and informative film that features stories of nine girls from nine different countries written by nine writers and performed by nine actresses.  The short story collection of each segment features the real girl acting out an episode of her own life, giving us an intimate view of what girls around the world are up against.


Film Festivals and Indie Films


Yes, sexism and injustice for women’s right doesn’t happen in one, two or three countries but more than what you expect. Without our knowledge, many women are abused and tortured even at a young age.


Some of the segments deal with intense and disturbing topics including slavery, child marriage, rape, and human trafficking. There are matter-of-fact discussions of these issues, but nothing graphic is shown and it was pretty amazing- lots of realization.


Have you heard a story of a 7 year old child raped and killed by her 30 year old husband? It’s true and disturbing. How could this happen to a little girl who should have been enjoying her days of being a girl?


Well, that’s their culture and some see it as an opportunity of having money. Some poor families from the other side of the world sell their daughters in exchange of money. Some poor families tie up to other families and let their daughters marry men double her age as what I mentioned above for again, in exchange of money.


Many feminist groups continue to do the fight they have started. It’s not for their own good but for the future generation of women. And we should thank them or better, let’s be a part of this movement. We should stand as sober reminders of the kind of unforgiving obstacles faced by girls in developing countries and the positive, ripple effects that learning can bring.


Help girls rise and experience the privilege of what they deserve in this whole wide universe, visit and invest on one or another girls’ future, stand with them.


"Once made, a bond couldn't be broken. I am the master of own. After me, everyone will be free."


Realizations After College

Graduating in college might be the greatest achievement a person could have. The thought of surpassing several years of patience and hard work in studying is so overwhelming. You may feel that you have finally escaped from hell and your life from now on will be a lot easier. You will also think that staying in school for so many years has prepared you enough to face the real world. But wait; don’t be over confident because there are things that you will not expect to realize few weeks or months after graduation.

If you are a regular passenger of jeepneys and buses, it will take a while for you to change your habit of asking for student discount. Just think that for so many years, jeepney and bus drivers gave off few pesos from their income because of your privilege to have a discount. Now, you can give back and help these drivers. The next time you could ask for discount is when you are already a senior citizen unless you go back to school again as a student.

It is very humiliating to admit to yourself that you are part of the unemployed population. Well, there’s nothing else to answer to this question but just honestly say that you are a new graduate, unemployed and your parents are still the ones feeding you. Today, it is very difficult to get a job because of competition. Even if you are a college graduate, it is still not that easy because there are millions of other graduates like you who are struggling to be hired in the positions they desire. That’s the inevitable reality for all the graduates and there’s no other choice but to face it.

Jobstreet and other job-search websites are now more important than Facebook.
After graduation, job-search websites might be the busiest sites because of so many job applications sent online. The pressure given to these graduates maybe caused by financial responsibilities to their families resulted to massive number of applicants. College graduates are now mature unlike when they were still students who just want to have fun so Facebook is not their priority anymore.

I thought I was ready for job interview but I got stunned when the interviewer asked me, “Tell me something about yourself?”

The question sounds easy and very common but why is it so difficult to answer? Most of the time, new graduates don’t prepare for this kind of question when having a job interview because they thought the answer will just come out naturally during the interview since they are just simply asked to tell something about themselves. But for first timers, it is expected to have lengthy and unorganized answers because they tend to have so many ideas in mind and they are pressured to put these together in one statement.  It is very important to prepare for this typical question by describing yourself in a very short, simple and catchy sentence. By this, you will be remembered by the employer and possibly stand out among the other applicants.

I realized that I should have just mastered the Microsoft Office in my entire years in college.
The most common job today is an office job where all you need to do is type a letter in Word, make an Excel worksheet and create a presentation in Powerpoint. Who can tell? It may also be your edge to other applicants.


To sum up, I realized that there is no better time than now. Go back to school, if the fire is in you. Organize your life. Minimize your belongings. Sort out your relationships. Learn about your family. But whatever you choose to do, do it whole-heartedly and don’t give up. Find your own path and remember that every other college graduate out there is going through his/her own turmoil just like you.


The first few years of life after college are your glimpse at the “real world” and truly, the bounce-board into the rest of your life. So jump right in and enjoy every goddamn minute of it.

Ikaw ay isang Biyaya


Ikaw ba ang laging hinihingan ng payo ng mga kaibigan mo kapag may problema sila, stressed or burn out sila? Ikaw ba 'yong lagi nilang takbuhan sa panahong nahihirapan sila dahil alam nilang makikinig ka?


Dumating ka na ba sa puntong, "Teka teka, may problema rin ako.” Yung kailangan mo din ng makikinig sayo pero sa mga panahong ito, wala sila para making sayo.


Nakakapagod, 'di ba? Masakit dahil pakiramdam mo, wala silang pakialam sayo. May mga tanong kang “Mukha ba akong okay lagi?” at “Mukha ba akong walang problema?” Kulang na lang sabihin mong "tama na, puwede ako naman?!”


Kung nasa ganyan kang sitwasyon ngayon, wait lang! Diyan ka lang! Kapit lang! 'Wag ka munang bumitaw dahil nais kong ibahagi sa'yo kung bakit napakahalaga ng ginagawa mo ngayon.


ALAGAAN MO ANG MGA TAONG IBINIGAY SA'YO. Tandaan mo, lahat ng mayroon ka, hindi 'yan ibinigay sa'yo para sa pansariling kabutihan mo lang. Ibinigay sila para alagaan mo gayundin ay alagaan ka. Kaya dapat lang na sila ay ingatan at pagpahalagahan mo dahil kapag nagpabaya ka, maaari silang mawala ng tuluyan sa buhay mo. Gusto mo ba ‘yon?


REGALO ANG PAKIKINIG. At ang regalo, ginagamit 'yan. Huwag mong itago lang, at hayaang maalikabukan hanggang sa maluma. Huwag mong sayangin dahil biyaya ‘yan.


BAKA IKAW LANG ANG MALALAPITAN NIYA. Kahit siguro mukha pa siyang maraming kaibigan, baka ikaw lang 'yong taong komportable siyang sabihan at kuwentuhan ng madidilim na bahagi ng buhay niya. Iyong taong kaya niyang sabihan ng nararamdaman niya. Isipin mo na lang na paano kung wala ka? Kanino siya lalapit? Mahirap sarilinin ang nararamdaman. Hindi ba dapat ay ikatuwa mo rin na sa dami ng kaibigan niya, ikaw ang pinagkakatiwalaan niyang sabihan ng mga nararamdaman niya.


INILIGTAS MO SIYA SA KAPAHAMAKAN. Kapag sobrang stress tayo at nag-iisa tayo, doon tayo nakakaisip ng mga bagay na hindi maganda. Aminin mo man o hindi, may mga pagkakataong sinusukuan natin ang mga problema na nagdadala sa atin sa kung anu-anong pangit na imahinasyon. Pero isipin mo, dahil nakinig ka, nailabas niya 'yong sama ng loob niya. Gumaan ang pakiramdam niya, alam niyang may nagmamahal sa kanya. Baka napigilan mo pa ang suicidal attempt ng loka-loka mong kaibgan. Your presence is very important.


YOU ARE LOVED. Alam mo kung bakit? Hindi mo maibibigay ang isang bagay na wala ka. Ibig sabihin, you are really loved by so many people around you that you can give it and pass it unto others.


TANDAAN MONG IBA-IBA ANG ROLE NATIN. Hindi puwedeng pare-pareho ang kaya nating gawin para sa isang pangyayari dahil magkakaiba ang kakayahan natin. Hindi rin puwedeng sabay-sabay tayong nakikinig at sabay sabay na nagsasalita. May pagkakataong ikaw ang makikinig pero may pagkakataon ding tinig mo lang ang maririnig.


TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY TO FEEL BLESSED. Sa halip na ma-stress ka sa mga problema nila, don't treat their problems like they're your own.  Sa halip, feel blessed that you are not experiencing them. At isipin mo, pagkakataon mo 'yon para matuto mula sa mga nararanasan ng iba. “Don't wait to experience the problem before you confront the solution.


YOU ARE BEING COMFORTED TO BRING COMFORT TO OTHERS. Si GOD ang pinagmumulan ng kapayapaan. Maniwala ka man o hindi, “He is at work” sa buhay mo. Ginagamit ka Niya para maging blessing sa iba. Huwag mong pakawalan ang pagkakataon to glorify GOD.


Kaya, cheer up! Hindi ka inilagay sa sitwasyon mong 'yan para maramdamang malungkot ang buhay o nag-iisa ka lang. Nariyan ka for something great. Nariyan ka for a purpose. At nariyan ka dahil karapat-dapat ka.


Don’t Let Them Get To You

When you have an inferiority wound, you will tend to remember it whenever you see someone doing things that you think you can’t do. Your wound could be something in general like thinking that you are no good in doing anything; or a specific one like thinking that you can’t achieve financial success. The more generalized your wound is, the more envy is felt in life.


The type of inferiority I am talking about here is not the famous inferiority complex but it’s rather a belief that you are no good at doing something or at least not as good as your friends.


There are times when we tend to judge our capabilities. Please don’t ever do that to yourself. We all have our weaknesses and it will not be helpful for you to focus on it.


Stop the envy of others. As what I’ve said, we all have weak points and we all might envy others at some points in our lives but what differentiates a strong person from a weak person is that the first will use the feelings of envy as a motivation to make bigger achievements while the other person will suppress the envy feelings deep inside him along with the big pile of suppressed emotions he has.


Building self confidence won't be helpful unless you build confidence in that specific field you think you are no good at. Dealing with feelings of envy is not hard, you just have to prove to yourself that you can do better than your peers and you will never envy them again.


Strengthening your beliefs and striving to move forward is the key. Never allow yourself to be caught in self doubt and conflicting ideals which others see you as. In simple terms, learn to ignore negative and damaging comments made against you. At the back of your mind, adopt the notion that people are entitled to their own opinions but equally, you too have the right to filter or discard negative opinions.


Loving yourself is a good thing, but not to the point of arrogance. It will be good to reward, appreciate and respect your own uniqueness at times. See the potential of what you have accomplished and try to make it even better. As they say, your greatest competitor is yourself so see to it that you have been better than before. Self-sacrifice can be good at times but not where in it causes you to be exhausted, frustrated, or taken advantage of.


You are great in your own way. You just have to see it by maintaining a neutral stance of staying focused and being calm. Know your own limitations and work well with your strengths. Steer clear of any person or situation that will drag you down emotionally and create doubt in your own capabilities as an individual. Just focus on what you can do and not by what others tell you. Do not let yourself feel lesser than them.


Refrain from being bitter and angry. These negative emotions are energy draining and set you back, deplete your self-esteem and waste your precious energy.


If your anger is rational and justified by hostile circumstances, focus on it as energy. Decide that you can be better than your abuser, more self controlled, more positive. Turn that energy into real achievements that prove your abuser is wrong. Remember your self-worth and worry less. You can also turn it into humor.


In conclusion, always remember that, “As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval; you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are - what others say is irrelevant.” - Nic Sheff

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